I fall under the stereotype of the “healthy food friend” (aka “crazy friend” or “friend with food paranoias”). I strongly believe that this causes more stress for me than it does for my hosts. I’m so afraid that they think I’m judging their food choices that I don’t even want to suggest we eat food together. Common comments made include the following:
“We’re grilling out but we won’t have any of that fancy meat you buy.”
“I’ll make a dip but it won’t be healthy.”
“What exactly can you eat?”
“I went out and bought your special food.”
Any way you say it, I’m feeling like a burden. This just stresses me out and makes me not want to suggest we get together with anyone and consume food. I may be moving out to the boonies and surrounding myself with trees but I don’t ACTUALLY want to be a hermit!
Here are my suggestions and thoughts on the matter:
1. If I’m coming to your house for dinner and we’re friends, I know you and what you eat and I don’t care if you feed me potato chips and store bought dip. I’m coming to spend time with you, not your food.
2. Yes, I want you to eat healthier—healthier meaning REAL FOOD, not fake processed stuff–but that does not mean I’m going to force my homemade stuff down your throat or judge you for not doing what I do. I’m your friend, I love you.
3. Tell me I can bring a side dish or something to contribute. That tells me that you like my food, or at least don’t mind if I bring a dish to lessen the burden. It also might make you feel a little less stressed that I’ll feel like I have no real food option. This is not something I focus on when I get together with friends. Please please please stop worrying about it!
4. The great thing about having me over? You don’t need to provide a million drink options! I’m cheap! I’ll just drink water and be happy….or alcohol of course. Beverage Options:
Coffee (made with water)
Mommy Juice (I’m referring to wine—not breastmilk)
5. I love dessert. I eat ice cream, chocolate, and chocolate. Yes, I prefer to make my chocolate cake from scratch but I am definitely not going to turn down whatever you made out of a box. We’re friends and I love chocolate. 🙂
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